https://www.npr.org/2021/04/23/989888314/nora-mcinerny-how-can-we-face-lifes-rough-edges
Weeks ago I listened to her Ted Talk about grief...and I listened again and again. It 'spoke' to my own struggle with losing Russ.
Nora's path is my path, it's just that she is so much better at articulating it. So rather than rewrite her thoughts, you can have a listen and know a small piece of me, the shadows I am trying to bring into the light. One thing Nora espouses is that not all wounds can be fixed and it is OK to remind people of that. Really. Why is it so difficult for us to realize the universe is made up of rough edges!
My life experiences have shown me that even if my story is sad, I am not the sad story. I may have gone through something hard, you may have gone through something hard...welcome. Nary a person lives from birth to death without rough edges, without those little chapters that may seem to be nothing and yet affect the rest of our lives.
My writing is my silent correspondence to myself; it is more for me than you. I appreciate Nora because she is able to help me see myself as growing rather than failing. She is helping me accept my grief for what it is and to acknowledge that the rough edges of my days are real and by facing them with honesty, I move towards the light...thank goodness!