I contend there are many faces of God, many ways to express being devout. "God doesn't give us what we can handle, God helps us handle what comes our way." God doesn't make bad things happen.
I firmly believe that life is NOT all about us. I believe that life is about others. We are born to use our gifts to the greater good. I believe every single person should be doing something EVERY week for someone else. I believe we honor our life when we honor others.
The people running the soup kitchen aren't judging Pete. They are using their gifts of compassion, service, encouragement to care for someone other than themselves. They are probably like me when I work at our soup kitchen; working hard to not judge. Working to put aside my experiential background in witness to their problem solving strategies and life choices.
Before each meal at the soup kitchen a prayer is said. I make the prayer faith filled, but not preachy. I know most of the people there, like Pete, do not go to church, but it does not mean they are hostile to faith. It probably just means they don't think church is for them.
My role, and the role of all in the act of serving others is to be a positive truth to their day. I do believe God is my guide. I believe God loves us in spite of ourselves and I believe as you read scripture it can make a difference and be your guide. Almost everything in life is a judgment call and tho I still question, I have enough information to make a wise decision and believe.
As Jeff says, no one can give you faith... that's something you have to struggle with on your own; that's what it means to be human.